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I asked Keith, who's been to three Wing Bowls in his life, to respond to Richard Rys' article in Philly Mag. Below is his reaction.
It seems like every year someone new feels inclined to take it upon themselves to be the white knight amidst the darkness that the city of Philadelphia apparently so desperately needs. Someone who can sit on their cloud of judgement and hand down life lessons to all the sinners. Trying to take down Wing Bowl for the 23rd time in a row by pointing out its underage drinking and rampant misogyny. This year it was Philly Mag's, Richard Rys.
Just to preface this, I've been to Wing Bowl three times now. When I was 20, 21, and 23 years old. Now at 25 and being the well-versed, wise, old sage that I am, I can look back at my time there with a little bit more of a level head. Yes, it was a great experience. I thoroughly enjoyed myself while I was there. My buddies and I would meet up somewhere between midnight and 2am and start having some adult beverages and then we'd head over (with a DD, of course) right around the time the parking lot would open, which I think in those years was around 4am.
And I know you're saying, "But Keith, isn't the legal drinking age in the United States 21? You just said you were 20 when you went." Well, I looked it up and yes, that's correct. But, I don't know what to tell you. Because the truth of the matter is, the parking lot is swarming with underage drinkers. Two years ago I had the whole Malvern Prep football team drinking next to me in all their terrible, douchey, high school glory. Do I blame Wing Bowl for that? Hell no.
The parents of these kids should be the ones held responsible if you are so outraged by the underaged drinking going on. It's a Friday at 4am and its now Wing Bowl's 23rd year. If you don't know what your son is doing in that parking lot and what happens when he gets inside the Wells Fargo Center then you are either the most oblivious human on the planet or you simply don't care. To blame WIP and the Wing Bowl for having underage drinkers outside their stadium is like blaming the Eagles, Flyers, Sixers, and Phillies, for doing the exact same thing. Except it happens way more often and in much greater numbers at these sporting events. Not a peep regarding them, though.
But drinking is not the basis of Richard Rys' article here. To him, the misogyny that occurs at this event is grounds for its termination. He condemns all 20,000 attendees as basically boozed up, inbred, animals who see a woman and can think of nothing else to do but club her over the head and drag her by her feet into their caves. On top of that, he drops this comparison:
The problem with Wing Bowl is the gross misogyny that’s overtaken the event — an event promoted by the same folks at WIP who were so (rightly) outraged at the NFL and commissioner Roger Goodell over their handling of ex-Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice’s domestic violence case. There is a connection between what Rice did in that casino elevator and what happens at Wing Bowl. And if the culture doesn’t change, this year’s Wing Bowl should be the last.
He then descirbes his time at the event:
Once you’re inside the arena now, there’s a sense that anything goes, particularly when it comes to the treatment of women. You don’t just see videos of wing-eaters on the big screen — there’s a camera scanning the crowd, looking for one of the following: an attractive woman, whose image will send the audience into a “Show your tits” chant; two attractive women, which will inspire a cheer in hopes they’ll flash their breasts or start making out; or an obviously unattractive woman, who will get booed, especially if she pulls her shirt up. It’s like a Mötley Crüe concert circa 1987.
But mass classlessness isn’t where it ends. I’ve seen men grab two women by their heads and try to make them kiss, or claw at women’s shirts when the camera pans past, hoping to cop a feel or expose a breast. Guys pound on the hockey glass as the Wingettes pass by — sometimes they’re just making faces or acting like idiots; other times, they’re flipping the bird and spitting out words like “slut” and “whore.”
I can honestly tell you I've never felt this way while I was at the Wing Bowl. I didn't walk through the doors and immediatley look for the first ass I could smack. Didn't see any of the Wingettes and scream obscenities to them. And I certainly didn't grope or see a single person grope anyone in the three years I went. If we are being honest, all of the women shown on the jumbotron seemed to be more than willing to flash the crowd, laughing about it as they did it. Now, I certainly can't get into the minds of every woman there and truly know their intentions when they did this, but neither can Richard Rys [who only seems to point to Ronnie Polaneczky's article from last year], so to say its one way or the other is not only wrong, it's just a waste of time.
He goes on to talk about his female friend's experience:
Also in attendance at last year’s Wing Bowl was Ronnie Polaneczky, the columnist for the Daily News and a friend of mine. Ronnie — a wife and the mother of a college-age daughter — roamed the crowd for a firsthand look at the behavior on display. By the end of the morning, she’d gotten smacked on the ass to the tune of “Lookin’ good, babe!,” witnessed what may have been a public sex act, and watched a pair of young ladies get crowd-shamed into rubbing their bare chests against each other, then get groped by the men nearby.
Never in my time there have I seen anything like this. I mean this literally sounds like a brothel scene from Game of Thrones. Public sex act? Crowd shamed into rubbing their breasts together? Wow, that's an extremely persuasive crowd.
Two years ago, I brought my now fiancee, to the Wing Bowl. She wanted to see first hand what it was all about. I warned her exactly what it was. I told her every detail I could remember about its debauchery. She was fine with it. Not a single time did she have someone cat-call her, or slap her ass, or force her to do anything she didn't want to do. She had a great time. She told me she'd never go again, but that's because she values sleep way more than watching disgusting humans shove meat into their mouths without trying to puke.
Am I saying there is no harassment going on? No, I'm not. I'm sure there is from some guys. You know how I know? Because its a room full of 20,000 people! Most of which have drank beer and a lot of it. You think harassment doesn't happen at the Linc or at CBP with double or triple the amount of people there? I'm not saying its right or justified. It's not and it never will be.
Rys expands on his Ray Rice comparison:
Perhaps it’s unfair to draw a straight line between chanting “Show your tits” and punching a woman in the face and dragging her unconscious body out of an elevator. But does anyone imagine that the guy who felt free to butt-slap Ronnie — a stranger, in public — would, after Wing Bowl, be less inclined to smack his girlfriend or wife around?
With all due respect to the great people of Philadelphia, a city I love, I'm just going to lay it out right now. I always try to be honest with you and here is my genuine honesty. Some people who go to Wing Bowl are pieces of shit. I'm sorry, there is no other way to put it. But, if you go to Wing Bowl and sexually harass a woman, you are a piece of shit. If you get too drunk and can't control yourself so you yell at women and "grope" them, then you are a piece of shit. If you feel so inclined to go to Wing Bowl and see strippers as Wingettes, so you have the urge to go home and punch your wife or girlfriend, you are a piece of shit. You were a bad person before you got to Wing Bowl and you are a bad person after it. The actions that unfold over the few hours of the event is not going to change that.
The actions and views of a few lowlifes do not reflect the actions or views of the vast majority of the people there. It's not a family atmosphere, but that doesn't mean is a free-for-all of drunkards who are just looking for the closest woman to non-consensually mate with. If you want that, head to Atlantic City.
If you are for increasing a security and police presence and getting rid of the people who are doing this, then I'm all for it. Of course, if stuff like this happens it needs to be reported and that person needs to be thrown out or arrested.
What I'm trying to say is, why are we condemning the vast majority of Wing Bowl attendees who go to just have a good time with friends or with their own girlfriends or wives to watch some guys in capes eat chicken wings? Most go with the best intentions and just try to have fun instead of being stuck in work. If you see a few nipples in the process, then so be it.
Editor's note: I would argue that Richard Rys should maybe have interviewed past Wingettes for his piece, but he was only giving one side to the argument - his. Citing Ronnie Polaneczky's article was the only way he could supplement his argument, instead of new and refreshing interviews. That's going to be the main reason not many people are going to take him seriously.
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